Can you believe it’s already 4th of July weekend?? Seriously where is this year going? I can’t even believe it. I’m pretty sure I say that in just about every blog post, but seriously it’s hard to believe. The year is flying! But, speaking of 4th of July and it being Independence Day, I wanted to take a minute and talk about independence. Funnily enough, how to regain independence post having a baby. How does one do that? Check out below!
So I always thought independence was being completely on my own, not answerable to anyone, and just being able to grab ‘n’ go. However, with a little one that’s dependent on you for every basic move, I definitely didn’t feel so independent. It just required a simple mind shift.
Self Belief-As moms, we’re constantly questioning just about every decision and step we take for our child, and it’s a neverending battle of whether it’s appropriate/healthy/right. So self belief goes out the window. However , the first step to gaining some sort of independence is through self belief. Easier said than done-but with some journaling, affirmations, meditations and learning to do what’s right in our gut, the self belief comes trickling back.
Do what You can for You-Another step to regaining independence post-motherhood is to do what you can for you. Here’s what I mean: I know I cannot just grab my purse and head out for drinks with my friends on a whim. However, I can do the same thing with some planning and a few more steps. BUT I can still do it. For me, my wax appointments, nail appointments, hair appointments, and friend dates are so so important because they allow me to do me for me and that honestly feels really really good. So another step towards independence: do what you can for you.
Release the Guilt-Did I mention how terrible mom guilt is?? You can read this post for more. However, the next step is to release the guilt. It’s never ending and it’ll keep creeping it’s way back. But we gotta release it to move beyond our hesitations and fears.
So with a little self belief, doing you, and guilt release, one can start taking the first steps towards independence even in motherhood. It’s journey, but we can keeping coming back to this list as a reminder.