So this week we have International Men’s Day. I didn’t know this was a thing until very recently. There is so much fuss around International Women’s Day and almost no buzz around International Men’s Day. However, one thing is for sure-while we women definitely do not have it easy and there is 100% a long long way to go-it’s not easy to be a man either. Not sure if you saw, but Ayushmann Khurrana’s video for The Man Company touches on this topic, and it couldn’t be more true. Patriarchy has affected us women for sure-but it’s definitely affected men as well, and it’s time the whole feminism conversation becomes more conclusive.
As we women are expected to act and behave a certain way, it’s the same for men too-they have to provide, be tough, not show emotion etc. I go into more detail about this in a previous blog post of mine regarding feminism and men. Nevertheless, one aspect I’ve observed within our Indian families is the idea of sons needing to stay in your fathers house and provide/be responsible for the family. This concept is so ingrained in today’s men that there is a constant conflict between doing what they are taught is “right” versus what they want to do. In fact, this particular concept is where women have it easy in today’s modern Indian society-this kind of exception is not on us-reasons for that is a whole other blog post.
That being said, we gotta give our men much more credit than they deserve. Do they have it easy in so many ways? absolutely…but there’s so much more than meets the eye. Personally, I’m so blessed to have wonderful leading men in my life-especially my husband. Even he needs to be reminded every now and then that it’s ok to be vulnerable as long as he’s happy, but hey thats life isn’t it. So definitely Happy International Men’s Day to all the wonderful men out there who have been there and will always be there.