When it comes to the pressure and expectations society and us moms put on ourselves, the list is endless. We try our level best to be the best parents we can be to our kids, but it’s hard! I can speak for myself that pre baby I had one set of expectations, but as soon as the little one arrived those expectations went completely out the window. And I went from feeling horribly guilty, to dealing with it, to accepting , and now embracing it. So here are some of the expectations I had originally set for myself, which just didn’t happen.
No Screentime– I always wondered why parents would allow their kids screen time, knowing it’s not the best thing for them. Now I know why: to get kids to sit quietly and one spot. I can speak for myself that sometimes with Aisha, if I need her to sit quietly at one spot for her meal or to cut her nails or just to stop running to me when I’m near a hot stove or a hot iron I will turn on Cocomelon for my sanity.
Well-Behaved Kids all the Time-Aisha came into this world knowing one way of communication: crying. In her limited time so far, she’s learned multiple ways to communicate and she will continue to do so. So a meltdown is bound to happen every now and then and we just have to roll with it.
Natural, Homemade Meals Only-Honestly I sincerely wish I could give my daughter and myself homemade meals all the time. But it’s a lot of work. With managing the rest of the household, the blog, and being an involved parent-store bought meals are a huge blessing. And at this point, my kid just needs to eat reasonably healthy food so she has energy, is happy, and sleeps through the night. If that comes in a package without me having to chop, blend, or puree at home, I will look into it.
Clean House-HAHA I really do laugh out loud at this thought. Why? because after every mess I put away, Aisha comes and takes everything out again. So my space is fairly messy throughout the day, so I end up doing the full clean up at the end of the day after she goes to bed. Atleast I wake up to a clean house right.
Set Schedule-Scheduling was honestly my biggest challenge after Aisha was born Her schedule kept changing every few months so it was difficult to keep up. However now to be fair we’re pretty good on this. We do have our days where we wake up a little too early or the nap is not at naptime, but you know that’s just a reminder to just roll with it and take things as it comes.
So those are the main expectations that I had originally set for myself pre-baby. Unfortunately, I learned the hard way that these were near impossible to meet for me. However, those who can achieve all of the above, please please do teach me your ways.