Can you believe that it’s almost Mother’s Day?! How crazy is that. Being a mom, I felt compelled to do a Mother’s Day-inspired blog post. However, I wanted to deviate from obvious ones: about what moms want/need. In fact, I’ve done posts similar to those, which you can check out here. This year I’ve done a lot of reflection, and I came to realize that I never shared what I love most: finding myself as a Stay At Home Mom.
Honestly, I never saw myself as a stay at home mom. I actually stumbled into it: with conceiving during the first COVID lockdown, it just felt right, and it still feels right.
Please note* I’m in no way demeaning those who are not SAHMs, and I acknowledge that I’m speaking from a point of privilege, where I get to choose to be a SAHM, and for that I’m truly grateful.
When Aisha was born, I met a part of me that felt dormant until her birth. As exhausting as motherhood is, it’s literally the best job I’ve ever had and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else and heres why:
Being there for The Firsts: Well the most obvious thing is being there for the first of everything. I feel truly blessed to be able to do that.
Monitor and Discipline As I see Fit: I fully acknowledge that it takes a village to raise a child, and I’m blessed to have my village for sure. BUT because I’m constantly with my daughter I can figure out the type of role model I’d like to be, and therefore adopt parenting style of choice to ensure she has a solid foundation as she ventures out into the world.
Set my Own Schedule: We all know being a parent is demanding to say the least. However because I’m not working a traditional 9-5, I’m grateful to have the flexibility to create my own schedule and ensure I have time take care of myself.
Easier time Prioritizing Family/Meals: This is another part of me I met after Aisha was born: being a cook. Going along with the point above, I don’t have to worry about a traditional 9-5. Therefore, I have enough headspace to research the meals that should be on our dinner table.
I am Her Safe Space: And finally, I’m so incredibly grateful to be her safe space. She knows she can come to me for everything.
And those are the few ways I found myself as a stay at home mom. I met a whole new version of me that-at the moment-makes me feel whole. 🙂